When Your Relationship with a Narcissist Ends and Therapy Starts

The aftermath of a narcissist relationship leaves you feeling confused, angry, depressed, anxious, and painfully disconnected from yourself. The lies and manipulation slowly change how you think and feel. Making clear decisions informed by what is good and healthy for you becomes impossible. When the victim of a narcissist comes in for therapy, there are as many tears as questions. How did this happen to me? How did my soulmate turn into a monster? What's wrong with me? Will I keep getting into these same devastating relationships? Would I be better off getting a couple of cats and being single for the rest of my life? Can I survive these complicated emotions?  

Therapy for narcissistic abuse recovery

In the center of these intense emotions is a longing to be seen and heard by someone who cares. It's a relief to be in the presence of an empathetic, understanding therapist who can connect you to your feelings. When this happens, an incredible thing happens to me as a therapist. I get goosebumps because I am so excited for you--this is why I'm excited. You have arrived at a rare turning point. You acknowledge your fear and step into an opportunity to learn and grow out of what went wrong. I'm excited because you feel your aliveness from the inside while consciously protecting yourself from outside influences that can seduce you away from your true self. It's a fresh start. The process sounds simple, but it's hard and takes courage, and you don't have to do it alone. A good therapist will help you acknowledge what has happened to you. Then you learn not to bury your feelings while tenderly giving yourself compassion. Self-compassion usually takes time. The justifications for remailing self-critical can be deeply ingrained.

How do you know you are starting to heal from narcissistic abuse?

You start listening internally for what you need—listening for answers from the inside, rather than latching onto something or someone from the external world. With time and commitment, you are on your way to experiencing your precious life in a whole new way--this gives me goosebumps.  

I'm a therapist in Los Angeles helping people recover from a narcissist relationship. My goal is to help you shift your perspective from a victim to one who was victimized. From that place, you can heal and move toward empowerment.

I hope this helps you make sense of why you might be seeking a therapist to help you sort through your thoughts and feelings. If you still have questions or are feeling stuck, please click Here for a free 15-minute consultation. I'd be happy to hear about what is happening and help direct you to the right person. If you are looking for help with anxiety, you can read more about how I can help here.