Different Person, Same Narcissist

Does this sound familiar? 

I get romantically involved with people who can not give me what I need – loved for who I am. Why is this happening over and over?

After another intense breakup - a friend casually points out that your romantic picks are narcissists. You google narcissistic abuse, — BINGO— you now see through a new lens. You are with a different person, but the story is the same. 

All the boxes check. “I fell hard and fast. They listened and said all the right things. They even did special things for my family. It was a soulmate connection. They were impossible to resist, so I focused on him. I lost myself in pleasing him, and I didn’t want to mess things up - again. So I became who he needed me to be.

I’m bait for a narcissist! There must be something wrong with me. 

Sounds familiar? You might be stuck in an ingrained unconscious pattern that leaves you with low self-esteem, self-doubt, and insecurity about the hope for a safe, loving partnership. The good news is that our brains can change, which means we can change and learn to make choices for our well-being.

There’s hope! Being a victim of Narcissistic Abuse can build strength and resilience. Working with a therapist specializing in healing narcissistic abuse can help your confidence and strength. 

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